4 Months, 23 Days

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4 months and 23 days. That's the answer I received when I tearfully Googled, "how long does it take to adjust to becoming a mother?" It was one of those days. The hard ones. I want to make it crystal clear, that when I talk about my tough times and trials in motherhood, it really has nothing to do with my son. It is not his fault I have struggled. I do not blame him. And he is not a difficult baby by any means. 

It's hard to explain the emotions and thoughts that come with becoming a new mom, especially when postpartum depression is added to the equation. It is debilitating, but Jude is my light in the darkness. 


I remember after reading about the 4 months and 23 days it took to adjust, telling myself, "if I can just make it until then, everything will be fine." 

In the beginning when I was having an extra tough day, I mentally repeated "4 months 23 days." I thought for sure once that day hit, everything would come together at once and I would be a super mom and all would be right in my world. 

Obviously I know the adjustment time is different for everyone, but that was my little piece of hope I was holding onto. It was getting me through. 

As time went on, I thought less and less of that "magical" (silly) time frame and eventually had forgotten all about it. 


Today, as I was playing with my sweet babe, feeling so genuinely happy and content, I remembered that article and wondered if Jude was 4 months and 23 days old yet. I pulled up my calendar and saw that today he is 4 months and 21 days old. 

I have adjusted. I am confident in my ability to raise him and raise him well. I am a mother and I know it, embrace it, and love my new role more than any other role I have ever filled. 


And it didn't even take the whole 4 months and 23 days. 











Check out said article about the adjustment of motherhood. 

Comments

  1. KatieOctober 15, 2017 at 3:52 PM

    I love this so much!! I took much longer and still wonder what the heck I'm doing 20 years later. Hug that baby boy for me!!

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